A Thousand Moments

buxombibliophile:

Someday I might write a compendium of things not to say to survivor, but today I have simply made a compilation of tumblr posts in one spot for easy reference. This is by no means an exhaustive list; each survivor handles recovery a different way.

Don’t ask the…

"Teachers are often unaware of the gender distribution of talk in their classrooms. They usually consider that they give equal amounts of attention to girls and boys, and it is only when they make a tape recording that they realize that boys are dominating the interactions.

Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time.

In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows:

The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.

In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts. This may sound outrageous, but think about how you react when precocious children dominate the talk at an adult party. As women begin to make inroads into formerly ‘male’ domains such as business and professional contexts, we should not be surprised to find that their contributions are not always perceived positively or even accurately."

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"To the left, to the left"

Karl Marx (via marxvx)

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WHEN MY PARENTS DISCOVERED SKYPE

whatshouldcanberracallme:

They were like;

September 14 - it is on

WHEN SOMEONE SUGGESTS I DO A DIP-ED AFTER MY DEGREE

whatshouldcanberracallme:

I’m like;

WHEN I STOP TO THINK ABOUT WHAT I WILL DO AFTER MY DEGREE

whatshouldcanberracallme:

Academic Men Explain Things to Me: Your Personal Breakthrough Doesn't Belong to You

mansplained:

While not entirely academic in the same sense as so many of the ladies here (holy crap, all of you are so awesome!), I studied Animation in college. The field of animation is, to use the only female instructor in the entire departments words, a boys club. The same can be said for the environment I…

The Problem With The Big Bang Theory…

butmyopinionisright:

I’ve been meaning to post something about The Big Bang Theory for a while now but it’s taken me ‘till now to really understand what it is about the show that makes me uncomfortable. I’m not exactly a believer in the whole “only write about the things you like, don’t trash the things you don’t” trend which seems to be plaguing comments sections in negative articles lately, but I wanted to be able to really examine why I don’t like TBBT rather than just slagging it off. My main questions being - Why don’t I like this anymore? Why do I feel uncomfortable watching it? And why do I get so annoyed when I see people sing its praises online? The thing which really sparked this post was seeing a raft of comments on Facebook, below the last round of voting in Television Without Pity’s Tubey Awards, claiming The Big Bang Theory to be “the best comedy on TV”. This made me angry so instead of posting an impulsive comment calling out their bad taste which I’d probably regret later, I decided to really analyse why seeing comments like that made me so mad when previously, although I didn’t really love the show, I’d never considered myself as disliking The Big Bang Theory.

Hell, I even have season one on dvd, it’s sitting right between Battlestar Galactica and Bored To Death in my alphabetised collection.

And here, I think, is where my problem with The Big Bang Theory lies…

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"To the left, to the left"

WHEN MY PARENTS DISCOVERED SKYPE

September 14 - it is on

WHEN SOMEONE SUGGESTS I DO A DIP-ED AFTER MY DEGREE

WHEN I STOP TO THINK ABOUT WHAT I WILL DO AFTER MY DEGREE

Academic Men Explain Things to Me: Your Personal Breakthrough Doesn't Belong to You

The Problem With The Big Bang Theory…